Good morning friends
Today morning I was listening to a talk by BK Shivani didi about selfcare. One important point caught my attention and set me thinking. She said that many times we hold grudges against people saying, ‘ How could that person behave like this with me ? I can never forget this. ‘ Of course, this kind of thinking means that we are holding on to these negative emotions and thoughts like grudges and anger and hatred ( She did not even utter this word, but I inferred it from her talk ! ) She explained that when we hold on to this negativity, it causes a lot of harm. And the first thing that is harmed is our own self. If our mind cannot let go of the behaviour of others and continues to harbour these harmful thoughts, first our body is affected and over the years, we suffer from illnesses. Obviously, these negative vibes also affect our near ones, our family and friends, the circle of people that we move in , and they can also adversely affect our city and country and the whole world too if everybody persists in this kind of thinking.
As I listened to her, a very interesting point caught my attention. I thought of the times when I had been hurt by someone’s behaviour. Our natural reaction in such situations is to blame the other person, to wonder’ how can this person behave so horribly with me ‘and to never forget the hurt and the pain and suffering associated with this situation. While we do this however, we do not remember the times when this person had helped us, we forget the occasions when we had wonderful times together and we just focus on the hurt. We find it difficult to let go of the bad behaviour but we choose to easily forget the good behaviour. Of course, this is human tendency and it happens everywhere and with everyone. More often than not, we vividly remember the bad behaviour of a friend or relative, but easily forget that the same person had behaved well 9 times out of 10 ! And when we send these negative vibrations of hurt and anger to this person, they are going to come back to us with a vehemence. And so it continues !
I do hope that all of can let go of grudges against others and hold on to their good deeds. ( Instead of doing the opposite as we often do ! )
Love,
Anjali Bhatawdekar
